Couples Therapy
The work two people do to stay close.
Long-term partnerships move through real challenges, and the hardest ones often arrive at the same time as the most demanding life events. Trying to conceive. The first year postpartum. A loss. Midlife. Re-meeting each other after a long stretch of just surviving.
Couples work here is honest, warm, and structured. We move slowly enough to actually understand what's happening between you, and not so slowly that nothing changes.
You might recognize
If any of this feels familiar.
"We've stopped reaching for each other and I don't know how to start again."
"Fertility treatments have eaten our marriage and we don't talk about it."
"We had the baby and now we're roommates."
"There was an affair. We want to try. We don't know how."
"We keep having the same fight in different costumes."
"I love them. I'm also exhausted by them. Both."
What couples therapy here covers.
- Fertility and IVF strain on the relationship
- Pregnancy and postpartum partnership shifts
- After a loss: when grief lives differently in each of you
- Intimacy and reconnection after parenthood, illness, or hormonal change
- Infidelity: disclosure, aftermath, rebuilding (or deciding not to)
- Midlife reckonings: who are we now, what do we want for the next chapter
- Communication patterns and recurring conflict cycles
- Pre-decision work: should we have a child, should we stop trying, should we separate
How the work goes
What therapy actually looks like here.
I draw from psychodynamic and family-systems approaches, with attention to attachment patterns and the family-of-origin material that almost always shows up. Sessions are typically weekly to start, and I'll sometimes recommend individual work alongside couples work when the moment calls for it.
Ready to talk?
A 15-minute consultation, by phone, costs nothing and tells you almost everything you need to know.