Fertility & IVF Therapy
Trying to have a baby is a full-body, full-life experience.
Whether you're at month four of trying, month forty, deep in IVF cycles, weighing donor options, considering stopping, or carrying a pregnancy after years of loss, fertility journeys ask things of you that most people in your life will never quite understand.
Fertility-informed therapy is a different room. The acronyms don't have to be explained. The grief is taken seriously. The body is treated as part of the conversation, not separate from it.
You might recognize
If any of this feels familiar.
"Every period is a small funeral and nobody else seems to know it."
"I'm avoiding baby showers, social media, and family gatherings."
"My partner and I keep fighting and neither of us can name about what."
"We can't agree on how long to keep trying, or what 'next' looks like."
"I don't know how to be hopeful and protected at the same time."
"I feel like my body is failing me, or I'm failing my body."
What we work on.
- Trying to conceive: primary infertility, secondary infertility, unexplained infertility
- IVF and IUI: the emotional architecture of cycle prep, transfer, the two-week wait, beta days
- Donor conception: egg donor, sperm donor, embryo donor, gestational carrier, and the identity work each involves
- Recurrent loss alongside fertility treatment: when each cycle carries grief from the last
- Decisions about stopping: when to keep going, when to stop, what "done" feels like
- Childlessness not by choice: building a meaningful life after the path you wanted didn't open
- LGBTQ+ family building: reciprocal IVF, known donor agreements, the medicalized path to parenthood
- Pregnancy after infertility: the strange new country of finally being pregnant
- Couples work: partnerships often need their own support inside the fertility process
Why fertility therapy is its own thing.
Fertility care is one of the most medically complex, emotionally compressed, financially heavy, and time-bound experiences a person can be in, and most of the support around it is logistical. A therapist who knows the terrain can be the person who tracks the inner life of your cycles, the relational toll, and the cumulative grief, while your clinic tracks your hormones.
How the work goes
What therapy actually looks like here.
We work in real time with your cycles. Some weeks the session is about the panic of a low AMH result. Some weeks it's about your mother-in-law's comment at brunch. Some weeks it's about whether your marriage has room for what's being asked of it.
I draw from relational and psychodynamic work for the deeper patterns, and from TRM (Trauma Resiliency Model) for the body's load: the way fertility journeys are stored physically, and the way grief and hope live side by side in the nervous system.
Ready to talk?
A 15-minute consultation, by phone, costs nothing and tells you almost everything you need to know.