Divorce & Separation
One of the largest transitions of a life — and you don't have to walk it alone.
Divorce and separation are not a single event. They are a long, layered season (legal, financial, emotional, identity-defining) and they ask things of you that even the closest friends and family don't fully understand.
This work is for the person in the middle of it: the one deciding whether to leave, the one who has just left, the one a year in and still surprised by the grief, the one trying to hold their kids steady while their own ground is moving.
You might recognize
If any of this feels familiar.
"I don't know if I'm staying or going, and the not-knowing is eating me."
"Everyone keeps saying I'm strong. I don't feel strong."
"I'm grieving someone who is still alive."
"I'm trying to hold it together for the kids and I'm running out."
"I don't recognize who I am outside of this marriage."
"I'm two years in and people think I should be over it."
What we work on.
- The decision itself: when to stay, when to go, what's repairable, what isn't
- Grief for the marriage, for the future you'd imagined, for the version of yourself who lived inside it
- Identity reconstruction: who you are outside of being a partner, often after years or decades
- Anger, betrayal, infidelity aftermath, including the long tail when the legal stuff is "done"
- The kids: how to talk to them, how to protect them, how to hold your own grief while staying steady for theirs
- The legal and financial weight, and the emotional work of not being subsumed by it
- The social fallout: friendships that shift, families that pick sides, the loneliness of being the first in your circle
- Dating and re-partnering: when, how, what you actually want now, the patterns you don't want to repeat
- Co-parenting: building communication and structure with someone you used to share a bed with
- Sex, intimacy, and reclaiming the body, especially after long marriages
- Late-life divorce: the specific weight of separating after 20+ years, often coinciding with menopause and adult kids
What this work is, and what it isn't.
This isn't legal advice. It isn't mediation. It isn't a place that will tell you what to do. It's a steady, weekly room where the full inner experience of this transition can be brought, examined, grieved, and metabolized, alongside everything you're navigating on the outside.
I work with individuals at every stage: those still deciding, those mid-process, those years out and still working through the layers. There is no right pace for this. There is just yours, with company.
How the work goes
What therapy actually looks like here.
My approach is relational and psychodynamic. We look at the patterns: what the marriage was holding for you, what your family of origin taught you about partnership, what you're learning now that you couldn't have known then. And we work somatically too, because grief and identity loss live in the body, not just in the story.
Couples sessions are available if you're in the deciding phase, or if both of you want to do this with intention. Individual work is the foundation either way.
Ready to talk?
A 15-minute consultation, by phone, costs nothing and tells you almost everything you need to know.